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My daughter at 5 years old, asked me if she was too young to be in love. I’m not sure which nerve in my damaged love life this question touched, but I answered quite definitely, “yes!” Later I was chastised by a friend who said that was the wrong wrong wrong answer. I knew he was right, because I already felt guilty over my answer.

I took my daughters to the play at the park and a good half hour before it’s time leave, I would tell them they had 5 minutes left. They would run faster and play harder through a count down that was approximately 30 minutes long and at the end they would come to me and tell they were ready to go home.

I often felt like a Fae, telling the truth but not all of it. It wasn’t hurtful or out of spite or triggered by some unresolved relationship issue.

My most hearty advice for single moms was to NEVER prognosticate what their other parent was going to or not going to do. Even though they had a record of broken promises to draw from, they were hoping. Who was I to take that away from them.

Truth is always subjective. You just have to use it wisely and with temperance.

Someday they may thank you for be honestly vague.

Kathy

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