You are absolutely right. At the same time, I also found that it is important that our kids see us annoyed, frustrated and not our best selves. Because they also need to see that their parents are no machines, that they aren’t perfect, that they make mistakes. Which is also why an apology goes a long way in teaching them how to recognise that you did something wrong, that you hurt someone’s feelings and that an apology is needed. I often try to explain why I became annoyed (once I have calmed down), so they can see how it built up - that it did not come out of nowhere.
It's inevitable that they'll see us annoyed, and the apology is the vital thing. No one, absolutely no one, has it handled (whatever "it" is), and modeling for our kids and each other how to muddle through as gracefully as we can, doing as little harm as possible, is the best lesson we can teach.
You are absolutely right. At the same time, I also found that it is important that our kids see us annoyed, frustrated and not our best selves. Because they also need to see that their parents are no machines, that they aren’t perfect, that they make mistakes. Which is also why an apology goes a long way in teaching them how to recognise that you did something wrong, that you hurt someone’s feelings and that an apology is needed. I often try to explain why I became annoyed (once I have calmed down), so they can see how it built up - that it did not come out of nowhere.
It's inevitable that they'll see us annoyed, and the apology is the vital thing. No one, absolutely no one, has it handled (whatever "it" is), and modeling for our kids and each other how to muddle through as gracefully as we can, doing as little harm as possible, is the best lesson we can teach.
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